Why we all need a regular weekend getaway with our husband

Transforming our relationship with our husbands

My husband and I just got back from a weekend away – just the two of us – and I can honestly say that I haven’t felt this connected and fulfilled in my relationship with him since before we had kids.

It’s been an amazing – and quick – journey that I didn’t even seek out – to reconnect with him over the last couple of months – and it makes me so thankful but also so reflective of how we’ve found this amazing reconnection in such a short time. When I’ve spoken about this with a few friends, the immediate question that comes up is, what’s the secret?

How to reconnect

My husband and I – we are just like so many other married couples with kids. We are busy day-to-day with our jobs, the kids, keeping up bills and friendships and volunteer commitments and errands. We, like so many married couples, focus many evening conversations on homework battles and who’s going to cook and clean and why does it seem like we are constantly picking up clutter around the house.

So we are likely, no different from many of you reading this, in that way.

A fork in the road

Over the last two years, I’ve been on amazing journey of heightened self-discovery, mostly filled with my own journey to find and express my creative self, in my hobbies, personal time and work. It wasn’t necessarily a quest to find a reconnection with my husband. But, oddly, when I look at where I’m at now – it started and has looped back around to him.

Typical married couples

Honestly, when I filled out my own work+life balance chart last fall in a workshop I led, I just took it as a given, like everyone else in the room, that we just couldn’t find deep fulfillment in our relationships as married, working mothers, very easily.

While we all talked about how we needed more play, more self-care, more travel in our lives, I purposefully avoided even dabbling in a discussion about what was missing in our relationships with our spouses – because it seemed so complicated and impossible. And I hadn’t yet figured it out myself, so how could I help guide others to do so?

And then – BOOM – it all fell into place! But I don’t think it was just circumstance and while it all happened in a matter of a few months for me and my husband, I think it was due to a much longer, deeper journey I’d been setting myself up for.

What does it take to reconnect?

So here are several gems of wisdom that came from people and experiences in my life – on how to reconnect with your husband that I didn’t find in any books or guides – life lessons – that were truly more transformational than any piece of advice I’ve read about or previously heard:

  1. Find yourself first
  2. Giving the other person the right to “I’ve got this”
  3. Sacral chakra – expression
  4. Masculine – feminine – needing the other person
  5. Personality types
  6. Living in the present & letting go of resentment
  7. Bringing them in to your life, ambitions, desires, goals, dreams
  8. Trust
  9. Time & space to connect

If you’re wanting more connection with your spouse, and don’t know where to start, I recommend you get on my list for my upcoming retreats where we’ll be diving deeper into these topics. And for now, why not schedule a weekend getaway for just the two of you? Both are likely to help you in more ways than one and you’ll be thanking yourself later for it.